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Our #Adoption Story Part 5 #adopt
Our son is 4 days old! And growing! Here we are in Phoenix, Arizona, and zombie-like! I had brought a collection of different kinds of power bar type foodstuffs and had to remind my spouse to eat periodically.And to all the other parents, remember the child wakes up every 3 hours through the night, to […]
THE BABY! Our #Adoption Story Part 4 #adopt
THE BABY! We raced back to maternity and they quickly put me in scrubs (needless to say I saved those and used them as my Halloween costume for several years!). They explained that since the birth mom had come in the day before unexpectedly she was not on the schedule. Thankfully we made it, we […]
Our @Adoption Story Part 3 #adopt
April, 2003, our 2 weeks of $10,000 worth of newspaper ads began. These ads went into local papers and pennysavers, not major metropolitan newspapers. There was no response for the first 4 days. Some of the ads went into weekly publications so we were told they would sit in peoples house’s for a week and […]
My #Adoption “How To” Can Work For Everyone!
Adoption How To: 1. Try to join a support group in your area. 2. Consider an agency or foster care/foster adopt. 3. Interview adoption lawyers. 4. Interview social workers. 5. Referrals for any of the above is always helpful. 6. Do not be intimidated by the process, don’t give up! How we did it: 1. […]
Preparing To Adopt. #Adoption Our Story, Part 2
I knew that the Gay and Lesbian Community Center had a support group for becoming a parent called Wannabe Dads and Moms. I tried to contact the person in charge of the group but never heard from him. Today I understand it wasn’t meant to happen until it was meant to be. It was a […]
How The Idea of #Adoption Started For Me. Our Adoption Story, Part 1
As a teenager I was very unhappy realizing that I was gay. I used to imagine having a wife and kids just to feel a little bit better about myself. Alas, it wasn’t to be, it was not something I could change, it is the way you are born, I just had trouble accepting that. […]
Happy 10th Birthday to My Son!
10 years ago today, 10 am, in Arizona, I met you for the first time, seconds after they pulled you out of your birth mother’s belly. (The full adoption story is here.) My first feeling was that of recognition, like we were back together again. After that I remember only crying and going out to […]
Prayer
Before we talk about prayer, we have to talk about G-D. I am not comfortable writing that out, that is how I was raised in Hebrew School, not to write the Lord’s name, then the paper becomes holy, we would al have to much saved paper! Do I believe in G-D? I don’t know. I do […]
Gay is OK, What a Relief.
Yes, I do feel more validated since I got married in September. I do feel that my relationship has more legitimacy, I do have more confidence, and I am even further out of the closet! Growing up in the 70’s, realizing I was gay was not easy. I tried to sublimate it as much as possible. I tried […]
Do I Have a Mom?
When you are in a same sex marriage with an adopted son, this is a question that is bound to come up. I have not read the books and I don’t know who I can believe when they say they are an expert; so my plan had been to just wing it when pressed to […]
Happy 9th Birthday To Our Son!
We were 2 guys scared out of our wits in the backwaters of Arizona. We operated 100% on blind faith. We were so scared that we didn’t even consider we might encounter prejudice because we were gay and going to adopt a baby. We spent all day getting to the hospital that your birth mom, […]
FOR MY NEW BABY 6 3/4 years ago
I used to work on Wall St and met people from all over the country in regional offices, some of the nicest people you would ever want to meet. One of these people was a beautiful girl from Little Rock, Ark. We got very close and have stayed in touch even though we stopped working […]