November is National Adoption Month
With November being National Adoption Month, I have decided to share my story with my readers. In the above photo – that is our son! At his one year birthday party! Or mini wedding if you saw the size and scope of it, but that is how it was done in our families!
I have written five posts describing our life and the adoption process. Check out the adoption posts linked below – from the beginning – how the idea of adoption first started for me until we actually adopted our son.
I always wanted to have a family. It might have started as a way to fantasize about not being gay, but I love kids, I always have, and I always will. The minute I saw my first nephew, born to my younger brother, I knew I had to somehow become a dad as well. I knew that being an Uncle would not be enough.
The adoption process was not overwhelming when taken one step at a time. In fact, when you take it one day at a time, it is quite manageable.
We have been blessed to raise our son in NYC, in an amazing community where everyone knows each other. From soccer to T-Ball, from camp to Hebrew school, from elementary school to middle school, we are surrounded by friends. If you did not expect to hear that said about NYC, the truth is, neither did I.
I started the blog to share our story. To talk about our adoption process. To let people know having two dads can work, in fact it is part of the new normal: a lot of families are not made up of what used to be traditional. And I talk about raising a child in NYC, as the son of a national blogger, and how we keep it all together! Did I mention he is an “A” student!
This was how we got through the process, and if you asked me the #1 tool that worked for us, I would say it was, and still is , prayer. Not religious prayer, not denominational prayer, just talking to a higher power, sending out a request to the universe, just admitting there is a power greater than ourselves that can help. It worked for us, and still works for us!
Paul is now almost my height! But as I remind him often, he will always be my baby!