It started with talk of a uni-brow. If you look really closely you can indeed see a slight amount of light colored hair between my son’s dark eye lashes. And who cares?
Well, someone must have said something to him. As much as he is a big tough guy, he is also a gentle giant, not one to be bullied, but he is also very sensitive. And unfortunately he is affected by other people’s opinions of him. I hope he can grow out of this, it is never our business what anyone else thinks of us, only what we think of ourselves!
Then he started wearing a wool hat over his head pulled down to his eyebrows. I really did not know what to do! Luckily I ran into my BFF and guru, Stacy. She has been a wonderful friend since her daughter and my son were in Kindergarten together 6 years ago. Plus, she has a son 5 years older than mine. She is an amazing resource for all the questions I have about a tween, soon to be teen, son. She has already been through it and I love her opinions about the subject. At the minimum I know I cannot handle things (by silence) the way they were handled when I was growing up.
So I spilled it. And she very simply said, why don’t you get his uni-brow waxed? Why? Because I know nothing about these things and need to network! It seemed simple enough and I couldn’t bear another day of watching him walk around with a hat over the top of his face! His gorgeous face!
Immediately at school pick up I took him to the salon. Tough guy did not want to go in, it was too pink and all. I finally got him in, I cajoled him to the appointment I set up, and within a minute is was over.
I understand I may have to do this again, but I could not see my son suffering with these issues. And these sort of things have come up before, mostly because of his over sensitivity to what other people have to say about him. He doesn’t understand that when he shows a weakness, a certain type of child will pounce on that. I chalk it up to human nature, and it is something we all have to learn how to deal with at one time or another.
What would you have done?