When my son was a few months old we were told he had a hernia/unclosed hydro seal.
Medically I may not be describing this perfectly, but his scrotum were not fully descended. We made a surgery appointment right away at the advice of his pediatricians, what else could we do? New parents, scared out of our minds for our child’s health.
Luckily surgeons are busy fellows and our operation was not for another month. In that time, his situation seemed to improve, and then go back to unimproved. Finally a few days before the scheduled operation, we felt that everything was where it was supposed to be and we canceled the operation.
It then occurred to me everyone rushed us to make a surgery appointment because surgery is a business, and businesses need customers. Silly me, I thought doctors where there to help us, not to use us to get paid for surgeries that are not 100% necessary. I may be behind the times here, but it was an important lesson that every parent should hear about.
Fast forward a few years. My son has been under observation for having extra veins in his leg. No big deal, we just monitor it. There are far more disturbing venous malformations out there, his seems quite minor in comparison, but it must be watched. Again, we wanted what was best for our son, so our leg doctor (he was monitoring leg length differential based on the extra veins) suggested we check in with a surgeon to see about an operation to remove the extra veins.
During my conversation with the surgeon at the consultation, I noticed he mentioned that he never got the x-rays delivered, but he saw them on-line. I may not be remembering this 100%, all I knew at the time was it felt like I was hearing a fishy story, that the details from the surgeon did not match the details given to me by the doctor sending the x-rays, something didn’t add up. I checked with our venous malformation doctor’s office and they confirmed charts were fedexed to the surgeon. By him claiming he did not get them, or see them, bells went off for me.
The more I thought about the office visit, the more I felt like the surgeon decided he knew the exact situation from doing a visual on my son’s leg. Perhaps his expertise was such so that was enough. But not for me. If you are not going to be truthful, then you risk losing me as a customer. I decided not go forward with the operation, we are talking about my son having a procedure, I can’t continue with that scenario without feeling 100% confident.
Perhaps you have all realized this information before. I did not. I grew up believing that doctors automatically were there to save lives and were 100% altruistic. Silly, I know, but this is what I believed. But hey, I used to think all clergy were perfect too!
So now I question everything. Is this 100% necessary? Having a child has caused my investigative skills to increase, I want to be as informed as humanly possible so I can make the best choices for my son and his health!